Biblical love is not distrustful but is fully trusting. Such a love is not sceptical, doubtful or suspicious but gives the other person the benefit of the doubt. Charity assumes the best motive and therefore gives the unbridled trust. We cannot read motives and do not profess we can. Therefore, charity assumes the others we come in contact with have good intentions. You may ask, isn’t this very gullible? It is not! But it is an approach that builds trust. The flip side of this Christian grace would be being scornful and cynical. It builds distrust and suspicion.

Remember in Pilgrim’s Progress, Christian arrived at a fire place in a house where he saw a man pouring water constantly on the fire but it does not extinguish? He was brought to the back of the fire place in another room. There he saw a man pouring oil to keep the flickering fire aflame. The interpreter explained to Christian that the man pouring oil is Jesus Christ. He is the one that pours the oil of grace to keep the heart of faith aflame always even though Satan, the man in front of the fire place keeps pouring water. Jesus is at the back of the fire place, He is apparently not visible to us in our affliction, but He is there sustaining us by His grace!

The word “to bear” literally means “to cover” with reference to a roof that provides good cover, that does not leak. It keeps water out. It has the idea to protect or keep by covering. It also has the idea to cover with silence, to keep secret, to hide and conceal. It hides and excuses the errors and fault of others. It is translated to endure, to forbear, to put up with. In the context of the redeemed man’s disposition, charity is the grace that enables one to endure, to forbear, to suffer. It is a humbling disposition. It bears the pressures of life and does not crumble under it. There is also that element of patience that endures what suffering it has to bear in life’s pathways.

Biblical love enables the Christian father to discipline his son. He instructs, corrects and chastises his son who has erred from the truth. It grieves the father’s heart to have to correct his son but he knows that it will help his son to walk right again. He will not hesitate to correct his son because he knows that obeying the commandments of God is a blessing for his son. It will do his son good for the discipline brings the son to the blessing of obeying the truth as he repents from his waywardness.

Homosexuality is fast catching on to become a legalised alternate lifestyle in many countries. It is this sin that sent God’s wrath raining on Sodom and Gomorrah in times past. History is repeating itself. Indeed, judgment is coming. The Christian separates himself from such sin as Abraham did by living not in the city but removing himself from these places of sin. The undiscerning Christian in the person of Lot will pitch his tent toward Sodom and gradually finds himself in Sodom before finally sitting at the gates of Sodom. Lot rejoiced in iniquity. He thought he could out manoeuvre sinners and gain a carnal profit in Sodom but he had his soul vexed by all the sinfulness around him. Lot was not abounding in biblical love. Remember his uncle Abraham prayed repeatedly for God’s mercy to spare Sodom and Gomorrah if there are even ten righteous men, knowing that his nephew and family was living there? Lot and his two daughters were the only ones spared of God’s judgment. Remember Lot’s wife who was turned into a pillar of salt for rejoicing in iniquity.

True biblical love or charity does not condone sin. It abhors and grieves at the outworking of sin in this fallen world. This is the meaning of the word “iniquity”. It is the outworking of sin in crooked or perverted behaviour that violates God’s Holy Laws. The word “iniquity” simply means a disregard of God’s divine laws. It means to act unrighteously and lawlessly.

There is indeed course to take stock to the responses of our heart whenever we would want to retaliate with evil. We need to acknowledge that it is wrong and need to repent and have a renewed faith and obedience by the power of God’s grace to trust God to work things out without taking vengeance into our own hands.

Charity bears no grudges. The word “thinketh” is from the root word “to count”, it is an accounting term, “to keep a mental record”, “to take account”, “to keep in mind.” Charity enables one to not count the evil suffered from others who have offended us and is willing to forgive these offences. Charity does not return evil with good but rather prepares the heart to return good with evil. This is the supernatural love of God in action. It is beyond the comprehension of the carnal man. It enabled Jesus to pray for his persecutors and not hold it against them, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34). The first martyr Stephen uttered these words to the same effect, “Lord, lay not this sin to their charge (Acts 7:60).”

The first covenant home set up by Adam and Eve was devastated when we saw one sibling killing another, Cain killed Abel. It must have grieved the hearts of the parents to see such carnage in the home. The Bible says Cain was very wroth (very angry). What happened? If we can perform an open heart surgery to examine the heart of Cain, you will realise that there is that boiling anger that causes Cain to lose his the peace in his heart, to be provoked so much as to take the life of his brother Abel.Family life grinds to a stand still!