Proverbs 14:10, Solitariness of Grief
A woman, whose husband of fifteen years had unexpectedly died, was devastated. “If one more person tells me they know exactly how I feel, I think I’ll scream.” They don’t know! They couldn’t know! Her pain was her own. No one else could share it. Recall the case of Job’s grief and his comforters, who, when they saw him they knew him not, so acutely had he changed under his grief. So they sat down with him upon the ground seven days and nights, and none spake a word unto him (2:11-13). This is the message of our proverb today. Every heart carries its own special grief or joy. Surely the one absolutely private event is death, and yet, “the worst of a saint is passed when he dies” (Swinnock)